Mar 19, 2020
Episode 27: Three Secrets Every Special Needs Parent Needs To Know With Guest Melissa Corkum
In this episode, we discuss three secrets every special needs
parent needs to know. Melissa Corkum and her husband have 6
children, two of whom have special needs. Over the course of
raising her children, she developed an individual and group parent
coaching business, providing the knowledge she had learned over the
years to others who require assistance. She noticed that her family
exhibited blocked care. She sought to figure out how to treat this
by utilizing numerous trainings and readings to help release the
blocked care. These taught her about high structure and high
nurture parenting, which helped her family grow in a positive
manner. In order to cope with challenging situations, finding
social support and connecting to others in similar situations on
social media was very helpful to her. It was also helpful to her to
redefine success as a parent to not revolve around her children's
maladaptive behaviors. Through her coaching company, she has
drop-in group coaching, but she has also created short courses that
are manageable and digestible. Other resources she has found
helpful are essential oils, having a mindset shift, the safe and
sound protocol, EMDR, relaxation and mindfulness apps.
Melissa divulged her three secret every special needs parent needs
to know.
Secret 1: It is not your child's fault or your fault that the child
"can't act his age." When children are supported appropriately,
they do not misbehave. Therefore, it is up to us as parents to
figure out what they are.
Secret 2: Bad behavior is your child's way of telling you he/she
needs something. There are 5 things to examine that might be
leading to the "bad behavior." Do they feel tired, hungry, sick or
thirsty? How is this affecting their sensory processing? What are
their emotional regulation needs? Are they feeling safe? Do they
have the skills needed to do what is asked of them?
Secret 3: You don't have to choose between being the bad guy and
being a pushover. You can choose both structure and nurture.
Melissa is offering our listeners free access to her Laugh More, Yell Less
Challenge. Check it out!
Links:
Melissa
Corkum
Laugh More, Yell
Less Challenge
Empowered to
Connect
The Connected Child
Trust Based
Relational Intervention
Safe and
Sound Protocol
Eye Movement
Desensitization and Processing (EMDR)
Stop, Breathe,
Think
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