Jan 30, 2020
Episode 20: Emotional Development with Guest Emily Davis
In this episode, we discuss cerebral palsy and emotional
development. Emily's son has hemiplegic cerebral palsy. From that
condition, he has minor physical limitations and he has had to wear
braces on his legs and have surgery on his achilles tendon.
However, his disability mainly manifests in feeling big emotions
and having difficulty managing those emotions. Her son is aware
when his emotions become big, but he still struggles to manage his
emotions in the moment. No matter the emotion, he tends to
experience them in a very big way. Communication is a must between
Emily and her fiance in order to know how to assist in managing her
son's emotions on a daily basis. These large emotions affect Emily
and her family by worrying that her other children are not
obtaining the attention they need and the family is less able to
engage in activities the family wants to do because there is so
much navigation of her son's emotions. Unfortunately, bullying has
been a problem for her son in school, and due to his big emotions,
he has been more susceptible to following what the bullies ask of
him.
As a family, in order to manage the intensity of the emotions, the
family talks about emotions frequently, they talk about how what we
think influences what we get in life, they use crystals to help
them sit with their emotions, and they use a "calm down" rock to
use as an anchor point to focus their energy. They go on a walk and
find an object and put their emotions in it and bury the object.
They also have family meetings on a weekly basis and are all very
open with their emotions. For her son specifically, when he is
experiencing big emotions, he goes outside and plays. He also does
Tae Kwon Do and soccer.
Emily has found that connecting with intuition has greatly helped
her son, by using his emotions to guide him to do things (what is
his gut telling him to do, how does the emotion feel in his body).
They set goals for themselves during the new moon, and during the
full moon they talk about things that they want to let go of that
month. Emily makes sure that she always lets her children talk
about their emotions and their experiences, to ensure that their
experiences are not minimized. Emily always shows her emotions to
her children to ensure that they see that emotions are normal and
that it is healthy to express emotions. Instead of grounding their
children, when her children act poorly, they are required to fill
out a packet of questions that require them to reflect on their
behavior and what they could have done differently, and it is up to
the children how long they are "on restriction."
Links:
Emily Davis:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Perceptionists Anonymous:
https://www.instagram.com/perceptionistsanonymous
https://anchor.fm/perceptionists-anonymous
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perceptionists-anonymous/id1481128773?uo=4
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