Jul 16, 2020
Episode 44: Managing Overwhelm In Parenthood With Guest Laura Hernandez
In this episode, we discuss managing overwhelm in parenthood and putting systems in place to make special needs parenting more manageable. Guest Laura Hernandez has 10 children who live at home, and she homeschools many of her children. Three of her children have special needs. She needed to put systems in place for herself and her family, in order to make life so much more manageable. After helping some friends do the same, she chose to create her own home management company, Mama Systems. A home management coach sees where the stress points are in a parent's life and comes up with ways to manage those things. She finds aspects of their lives to delegate and finds ways spouses and children can help. She also helps parents find time for themselves and time to engage in self-care.
Paperwork is very overwhelming and is never-ending in the special needs world. For health, education, and everything specific to that child, Laura recommends that everything should be kept in one binder. Keeping paper copies is helpful, even if you can access the records online. In this binder, there should be sections for health, school, and evaluations. There should be a separate binder for therapies and evaluations completed through therapy. The binder should be split up into each service. It can be helpful to also have a section for pre-filled out time sheets. This last part saves a ton of time and chaos.
Getting prescription medications delivered and automatically
refilled saves Laura a ton of time. Hiring someone or using a
grandparent if possible, to take the children to therapies can save
gobs of time.
Navigating paperwork related to grants is crazy making. Making a
google spreadsheet about all the grants is helpful. Make columns
for the date you applied, when you got the grant, and when you can
apply again. Keep a copy of the actual paperwork. Highlight it in
red if you are completely denied for the grant. You should keep a
separate binder just for grants.
Laura became overwhelmed by the quantity of paperwork related to
IEPs. Her special education teach said that it is only important to
keep FIEs, the IEP only for that year, and any updates during the
year.
Regarding home life and mentally managing life, first, sit down
and take note of what you want and what you don't want. Make a plan
for your ideal day and week, what you would want to happen, and who
you would want to make each item happen. Then, see how much you can
make happen. Batching work-days is also helpful (like wednesday
laundry day). When you have young children, you can make life
smoother by using lots of charts and structure, to give them
expectations. Set consequences if the rules are not followed, and
make sure you follow through each time.
To better delegate, make a list of everything you are doing during
the day and everything you want to be doing during the day, pay
attention to your daily experiences, figure out what brings you
life and what doesn't, and delegate the things that anger you. Give
yourself permission to take care of yourself. Think about what you
would like to do and prioritize to make it happen. See which things
are nonnegotiable, and what you can move around so that you have
more time to yourself.
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